This goes with a complimentary post:
After the horrific Sandy Hook Shooting a week ago, where almost thirty people were brutally murdered, I was sent this post written by fiction novelist and analyst, Joel Rosenberg. It doesn’t take long to infer he is a classic right-winged W.A.S.P. Actually, I agreed overall with what he had written in his post. But I was irked by it too. It seemed so . . . generic.
Indeed, Americans need to be better, different, remade.
Yes, we need our schools to be great (we just differ on how this looks).
We want our politics to be awesome (again, where we are all but unified).
Indeed, we should stop bad people and keep guns from bad people (yes, that includes both concerned sides of the gun debate).
Then, undoubtedly, we really need our families to improve.
Oh, and maybe we shouldn’t let our eight-year-olds whittle their days away playing Assassins Creed.
We need to stop sinning. Pretty sure that is a given.
(On a quick side-note, no pointing fingers! We are all guilty of sinning, so stop saying it is the people who kill their babies’ fault, or God’s wrath on us because some people sleep with whomever- I’m pretty sure self-righteousness, pride, lying, lusting over porn, etc… all qualify as sins too).
Lastly, it should be obvious that there is evil in our world, even though there is a lot of good stuff in the world too (Look at my rant on this here if you haven’t yet).
To all of this- No kidding!
Not to be mean to or anything, but thanks for stating the obvious, buddy (Rosenberg)! Even so, maybe sometimes someone does need to state the obvious.
Yes, we need help to be transformed, and I believe we should pray. I believe we can only be remade by seeking out the life Jesus promises (for many reasons, feel free to ask why).
But instead of focusing on guns, politics, prayer, schools, religion mixed with politics, views on abortion, video games, military, etc… all which are not agreed on and are hotly being debated in the wake of Sandy Hook, my question revolves more around how we can be practically proactive on something we can agree on.
In case you haven’t read a version of this blog post yet, this is a must read:
After reading this, and pushing aside our initial “What the ______!” reaction, I have no doubt EVERYONE believes we need to help parents and children like these.
Why are Michael and Adam Lanza the way they are? Are they born with crime in their DNA? Are they products of their environment? Do they just have terrible mental illnesses? Could it be more than that? Do they have demonic influences?
I don’t know and this is where we will start differing in our opinions again.
But what I do know is that even if Americans are remade and there is a “revival” in America, that doesn’t guarantee horrific things like the Sandy Hook Shooting will disappear. I don’t think more people being quick-fixed “saved” will change our world, not they have true life-change. Then, if someone prays over a loudspeaker at school, verses just with their friends around a flagpole- that isn’t going to make a school immune to a violent upheaval either.
Why? Because you need less than .0000001 percent of the population to do terrorist-like activities.
But what we can do, proactively, is look around us and start caring for parents who are readily asking for help, like Michael’s mom. If we had relationships with friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, and actually chose to get uncomfortable enough with them to actually talk about more than the weather, then we might be able to support families who need it.
I am part of an experiment called the Art of Neighboring. One of the challenges is to know families around you so well, you actually know the state of their marriages. Or maybe, in this case, the state of their children.
You see, I need people to help me parent. I know others need that too, and feel honored when people I know are willing to consider things I have learned. What if we lived life with people so we could be there for them when they have an out-of-control kid? What if we hosted community parenting classes, advocating for parents when they confess their child scares them? They don’t have to agree with everything we say. It requires a certain vulnerability to have conversations like these, a vulnerability we don’t often embrace.
It goes beyond parenting, but about being there for students, about being there for young adults as they find their way in college, in the world.
Am I so naive to believe that if we are attentive to those around us, if we learned how to have healthy conversations with those in our circles, even if challenging, lives could be spared? Am I so naive to believe that living life with people literally changes the world?
Why yes. I think I am.
Then, the other obvious factor is that another scenario needs to be available rather than just throwing thirteen-year-olders with mental illnesses in jail. I am not sure what that looks like, but it looks like something. Who will raise up to the challenge to make that happen? Who already is making that happen? How can we support their work?
Yes, of course I want the people in our country, heck, in our world, to be spiritually transformed. I think we should seek this, pray for this, and ya, ask God to heal our land. But having real relationships with people around us and coming up with immediate solutions to help families like Michael’s is a practical stepping stone that I think we can all agree on. This might be vague, but it is less generic than “God Save America.” It is better than just arguing about what is wrong; who is wrong.
And, now that I have effectively written a whole blog post on the subject, I must humble myself by saying I need to be more aware of those around me. I have had friends talk with me about their children’s mental illnesses, and I was either skeptical or didn’t really know what to say. I didn’t offer to help them or walk through their unique situation with them, and for that I am sorry.
God, please change me to be aware of and compassionate for those around me. When it happens, help me to have a clue on how to be there for a family walking through these types of situations. Please transform us to care for the Adam Lanza’s of the world and know how to fight the “rulers and authorities of darkness” which the Bible’s Ephesians tells us our real battle is against. And as always, thank you for your love and bigness, even in the midst of suffering like this. You are enough. Amen.
Again, the companion post to this one is found at The Average Advocate, where I typically blog. But as this didn’t really fit the theme of that website, I decided to post it here on my personal blog instead. Be sure to check it out and sign up to receive those posts!
Hi! Here are some updates of our life over the last few months.
Most of my blogging time these days goes to http://www.AverageAdvocate.com I have been excited because recently I have had people guest blog (finally)! I need the help, the other opinions/experiences, and the networks which other people have. So this is great. In addition, I was a contributor to the Human Trafficking Daily (a web news site) with my book review on Not For Sale. Score! In case you can’t tell, really getting this going has been important to me. Its the merger between some of my passions and a skill- my little small fish and loaves.
Of course, being mommy is still my main job (I hear this rumor I should expect this for at least the next eighteen years). Avi is now four and Josiah is now two. They are so much easier now, having grown a bit older. We love them bunches! And it seems anyone else who meets them does too! As of yet, Avi is a drama queen and Josiah is a soft-spoken linguist. They have had their fill of wedding this summer. My cousin Brett’s wedding in Wisconsin, Josh’s brother Ben’s wedding in New Jersey, and Josh’s dad’s wedding in Tennessee. Annoyingly, none of these weddings were at a beach! Oh well. But, apparently, we discovered that getting down with sweet dance skills is my kids’ fave thing to do!
I have also been working for my church , J10 Church, as “connections chick” for coming up on a whole year now. I’ve learned a lot from this experience, and hopefully I have been a blessing there too. I wouldn’t say it has been easy at all in any way. But I think the job fits me; I feel content in it. Although I do confess, I also feel like I am about to screw something up at any moment! So, on a positive note, it draws me to God.
Because it is writing related, I can easily share with you the book review posts I randomly write for my friends’ website, Reading Teen. This is total fun and fluff for me. Here are some others posts beyond what I have shared to you before:
This is my most favorite review because I thought it was really funny, the author of the book asked me to write it, and a lot of people liked it 🙂
These are some other not-so-thrilling posts:
A buddy and I pretended we were the site’s typical authors, and did an IMM for them. They are on either side of us, coaching us on the books we were supposed to let their readers know about. To us, this was hilarious, but maybe its just because we are all friends. Here you go anyway!
In case I’ve never mentioned it before, I finally decided a few months ago to create a new website/blog to write about my passion for the world’s hurting. It seemed like that was what God was leading me to do, so that is the direction I started going in. I liked the idea of being able to refine writing about advocacy for important international causes, separately from my personal blog. And now I can still feel comfortable talking about my kids, posting poems, other such stuff on this actual blog. If you ever read this blog, I hope you will take time to follow my new one as well, as I believe the subjects covered on it are important (and will probably write a lot more on that blog than this). I assume I will occasionally put links on this blog to different posts on the Average Advocate which are more personal to me.
You can find my new blog at www.AverageAdvocate.com. The idea behind it is that most people generally stay away from being active for causes which I believe God calls us to be active in, either because it seems to far-removed or we don’t have enough understanding that it is actually an issue. And if we do, we don’t know how to act. Hopefully this website can take us from being just the average people we are to assisting us to be active advocates. I don’t want to be a crazy activist, but I am willing to be an advocate in my average life. And I think you are too. Hence, maybe this will help us do that.
When you go visit this site, please be aware, there are still a lot of kinks I am working through. Although I have begun to write there, I still have a lot of construction to do! You can check it out anyway! And if you have experience in blog creation or design, and want to help, let me know. Or if you would like to write for it, that would be great too! Thanks!